Tuesday, May 2, 2017

how to stop setting yourself up for disappointment

i've been on somewhat of a minimalist/happiness journey for the past couple of years and i think its gotten to the point now that i've worked out and gotten rid of the majority of crap from my life. i've figured out what makes me happy and what doesn't and i've started to live more intentionally. but one thing i am struggling with now is i have this expectation that because i'm planning and picturing how i want things to go i'm working myself up to these "perfect" scenarios. although common sense would tell me that perfection doesn't exist and that all the planning in the world doesn't mean i'm going to know what is going to happen in the next 5 minutes, tomorrow or in 5 years. so i've been doing some reading and thinking on the subject and thought i'd share a few different things that anyone can do in a bid to stop setting ourselves up for disappointment.

take the moment for what it is
so maybe you expected something to go a certain way but it didn't. try to remind yourself that perfection doesn't exist and become open to how the moment is unfolding. 

practice mindfulness
mindfulness is the practice of being in the present moment. stop thinking about the way you want things to unfold and focus on what is happening. be all in the moment instead of being all in your head.

listen
people are all different. you can't control them. maybe they don't want to go along with your plans or they don't react the way you had hoped. try actually listening to them. stop that inner monologue, stop trying to manipulate them into going along with you. just really listen to them.

be open to changing plans
go in with the mindset that things might not go the way you want them to in the first place. 

we are all going to be left disappointed some times. there is no escaping that. but if you feel like you are being constantly let down then maybe just changing your mindset a little will help you deal with that.

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